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Radio meaningful support divine great careers whether you’re working or not actually answering a question at least four or five so we often find it there’s a lot of great content as a platform so that you can get farther along in your career right there are more than five chosen a few to address today there will be some others in the future but this is an a good place to start the address here is from Nico ghost who wrote it is it a bad idea to quit a job over in abusive boss and the backstory is I’ve been working at this job for over five months now and it was fun but lately my bosses been meaner and meaner to me like she’ll tell me I’m worthless one minute and then I did nothing while I’m in the middle of doing something it’s gotten so bad that other coworkers are trying to protect me as best I can I really don’t want to quit as I love the job itself but my boss makes me want to cry every day and it’s hard to find jobs in my area anyway so should I stick it out or would it be better to move on and find a new job yes always be looking for a new job that’s great advice on those of us who have been through sales for any length of time in our careers know that a good salesman never stops looking now with that said did used needs to stop and if you had not yet had a conversation about how you feel about these interactions that would be the first step and a lot of people are intimidated or they feel like they can’t have that conversation because they don’t know how to give that kind of feedback without it seeming like an accusation well they might be afraid to get fired Because if you want to build trust with your coworkers you also don’t want your coworkers to do all the work I always recommend people ask permission when ever you have an observation you’re making about a superior or somebody that you don’t feel comfortable having a conversation with hey Scott you know would it be OK if I share something with you what it might be open for both of us to make or create art or work load here yeah I think that’s a great idea because now you’re actively engaging them before you talk about what’s difficult bye-bye doing so you’re starting a conversation with a guess he say no I don’t have time then bring it up later but the idea is you do you want to engage them with them making the first choice to say yes I am at that pointI usually go with the SB Basically what you do is you set up a Feedback by putting it in a situation like if something is happened with your boss where she has made this comment that you’re worthless this morning when we were talking and then you can you put it in the situation you’ve been provided observable behavior you said I was worthless now you don’t want to angry or you’re just the best you’re the best exactly so the situation this morning when we were talking you said I was worthless and then the third step is giving the impact because no one can argue with the feelings that you had or the impact it had on you because you’re only speaking for yourself so this morning when we were talking you said I was worthless that really undermined my confidence in my work now she can’t argue with that she might say oh you shouldn’t By providing this information you are now starting the conversation about what happened for you without pointing fingers at her if she handles it poorly I think the next step is yes you should be looking for another job in the meantime you probably want to another job anyway because abuse is never OK what is your Drive the form on your boss though you should probably not respond it actually works better for me so I can be an advocate for what I want is it employee instead of doing this would be helping her with that with you anytime you can get another really appreciate it if you just come to me and say how do you want this worked out and then share with me the details of that so that I can provide you what you want and you can be successful you can do with that specific scenario is to What they actually meant if they were sincere in saying I think you’re worthless but at least you’re getting them to make the commitment to that if it was just being said in the heat of the moment that something that that individual leader can avoid in the future so it in any case what you’re doing is asking for more of their story to figure out what really is behind it because if it in fact you’re able to engage in a healthy conversation now or you can go further to say this isn’t going to work for me in the future no I don’t think anyone should say it that way but when you tell the supervisor this is what works for me to get more from me the supervisor would be stupid not to do it right if it’s within the persons capability there a lot of things that Yet if you can get there on the other side if you have had these kinds of conversations before if you have tried other things if you had any kind of mediator whether formal or informal sit in on Sundays conversations and it still hasn’t worked pretty good at this individual is not going to change and it would probably be in your best interest to find a better position even if there are a lot of jobs in your area just continuing the job search can create a sense of helping yourself so that you can be more resilient in these negative situations it gives you option to do what it is you want to do and look at this is a great career development opportunity because often I’ve seen it personally I don’t know if this is your experience God but I’ve seen it often the people end up in leadership positions on accident it but they never been given any leadership training or they don’t know how to manage people If they have moved up with training they may provide the same kind of leadership they add which could be just as bad but if they don’t know anything better they’re going to keep doing it so Nico ghost what you can do is look at this is a career development opportunity you can practice this process which is actually going to help you become a leader yourself the way you handle the little things and often we learn how to lead people by learning but we are not going to do from the leaders we had things not to do it again it helps you to refrain the situation if it is truly abusive and you get more of this downtime for lack of a better term where she’s insulting you and your back isn’t necessarily something you need to worry about because it’s not a reflection on you people may not A reflection of the person getting it this is some garden variety of abusive situation so it could be worse than it actually is in there just not sure if that’s the case you certainly want to talk to folks if you have an HR department there’s probably people also document these things when they happen and CYA if it gets bad you might also want to tell your department of labor organization with the government help you you don’t have any repercussion or after you get terminated and if your company has an EAP assistance program it’s usually a third-party who has an 800 number that you can go in they can give you advice if this is truly an abusive Bierman situation they can actually get involved in helping to report it and they will give you really good advice on how to protect yourself in that process hopefully I have this individual is it in that kind of situations but if it is if you are there and the chances are you need to get a professional involved as well I think we covered all the bases on that one so that brings us to the next question which is by Mrs. ABF wouldn’t employer rather see continue with long-term employment in one position or 6 to 12 months and various roles if it was showing professional group I know and here’s the backstory I know that job I am a junior in college and adult learner so I have a full-time job that I didn’t for a year but my previous jobs were 6 to 9 months I have always moved up either pay when moving to a new job company or out Are you looking for an HR position but without the bachelors degree I’m not given a second glance so I’m trying to look for positions that will be your more towards HR when I graduate so I will have the experience what’s the degree everyone wants but I worry that leaving another job only make me look worse should I stay at my current customer service job until I graduate or move up to do what makes it so there’s a lot of components that there are a great question I think there’s really three things that I’m hearing here one is what it what do people think of me based on my paper resume it’s a really that’s the question she’s asking how do I look up paper because people are giving me a second glance well it might not be the fact that you had a bunch of different jobs it may be that they never look at your resume even though you said it would be clear that just having something on paper doesn’t make it through it certainly does it is it a good barometer of skill What I’m looking for is there is transferable skills or direct skills that will apply to the job for which I’m hiring and if I think the way that the grammar is used or whatever it is the other elements how they may show up frankly I wouldn’t worry so much about that we’ve talked in previous podcast about it used to be that you would agree with one company and now with the longest somebody for 10 years about 46 months and it’s going down from job to job isn’t what it used to be it’s not as bad of a thing it’s actually more common either I’m saying is there a discussion about moving it to HR having done that myself I was going for my masters degree in HR I am I got my certification with both ate your CI and Sherman Description of the HR Masters program at HR would prepare me for an entry-level position and I don’t why am why am I going to spend thousands of thousands of dollars to get a masters degree to start from scratch and the reason is many people whether it’s HR or else a lot of people will hire and promote people based on the way they were hired and promote it they don’t want anyone else to have a faster route to success than what they have it if you’re being screamed out because you haven’t had X number of years of experience plus this degree and everything else I would say keep looking for the people who are looking at you not just what’s on your resume or after your name a lot of these programs are really just moneymakers university education is about making money there are a few universities that are truly about education that is where I would put my effort I would say get into an HR department at a lower level as soon as you can leave that the customer service job I’ve worked customer service or if you’re really good at that I can actually help you get into an HR job as soon as you can and then work your way out while you’re getting your degree they’re really good at what she’s really asking for she misses a BF is really asking you know it can’t really do this it so she’s questioning her maybe her confidence in her ability to do that she really needs to decide or ask yourself the better question is why are you why do you want to what are you doing now and your customer service rep that would translate to HR and there are many things that would totally because only Jorie really is his internal yeah well they should be servicing me a boy what is it always the case but look at HR that Specially when we’re talking about shoes and the light and preventing that of the bad things are you understand that there’s a lot of process involved in that but if HR really is your goal then I would say don’t hesitate to get into it because there’s a lot to like about an HR career don’t worry about your tenure but be prepared for the fact that somebody might ask you that question because they have that mindset so even though you know that it is it applicable to you anyway so you need to back up your answer with confidence in and describe how the 6 to 9 month engagements or tenure actually serve to their benefit really it’s about you being able to pitch that in a different way positioning it as a straight versus a vulnerability the idea if if they’re coming up is that your past is the predictor of your future even in part 10 Going to be a benefit to them but you hit the nail on the head your confidence is what it’s going to convince them not your resume so don’t lean on your resume on your carpet all right so numerous improvements to the question can I leave some jobs off my resume and a backstory is I’m applying for Walls this coming week and I’m fine-tuning my resume and job hunt for a little bit in the last five years and some rolls I’ve done have very little relevance to the roles of applying for I also don’t want to get my resume Wiles a text in the form of different jobs and companies and the tasks I completed when they won’t help my chances at all the likely just make my interview or skim over it all the more can I leave out some rolled it will look like there are some gaps in my working career though can I also leave a notice to say that for brevity I’ve left out certain irrelevant rules I mean this is a great question however you know if you really early in your career And molded to numerous improvements this idea of having noble ambition for a purpose is really important then you can align everything you’ve ever done with your purpose exactly know what if there is something that truly is out of Westfield it doesn’t apply to anything personally as I said the last question the resume is not the application if you’re going to leave things out then leave them out because if the gap is going to be important they’re going to ask you about it and you can say I spent a couple years doing something completely different was in my bag decided to come back to the line that I was going there going to except that I think you’re right wall of text to the four different jobs if you do have this similar jobs one after the other certainly there are transferable skills
Do you have this similar jobs one after the other certainly there are transferable skills and every one of them that probably apply to what you’re applying for now so that’s what you want to list so that even though the job title may change the company may change the idea of the work that you do isn’t changing it showing a specific trajectory that leaves you right to their doorstep if you need help on this we have done several different podcasts on Simon cynic the golden circle alert are finding your wire it starts with white anyway will leave that in the show notes because I think it’s critically important to recognize that resume yes it’s part of the process but you can apply more traction if you get into the networking site and once you start with networking people are going to know you before that Based on the way you presented yourself in person and the reason why you get up in the morning and do the work that you do this is going to be far more compelling to a potential employer anyway it if you think about your personal branding which we talked about another podcast if you think about creating your own brand and everything you talk about if it is in alignment with your resume will fall under that wind as well so everything sounds and looks consistent this is going to serve you a lot better than worrying about whether not you have a really good job on the resume the resume is not as important as you think yes it’s thing that they expect to see if the application process is all done online which so many of them are make sure that your cover letter is expressing what the trajectory really means so that then they can look at Cover letter until after the resume anyway if that’s the case I would say just keep trying to get out there don’t worry about the ones that don’t call you figure only about the ones that will be prepared for those calls take them both and strategy that means but I would leave it there in the company who can have a conversation with if this role really fits me well I’m going to be in a position to influence the process and you don’t do that over the Internet it is possible that it’s your resume that sucks when you don’t get a response from Ray he could be the company never even looked at your resume because they’re up their automated system didn’t pull it out it’s unfortunate but it’s the reality of the world we live in never take it personally always look for a person that you can send that document to you and have a conversation with about how you’re the perfect fit that brings us to the next question from the pool This is the backstory like the title implies I am 18 is soon to be graduating from high school I’ve decided not to go to a traditional university but rather to pursue a trade I’ve been interested in auto mechanics for quite a while now and have given it that this is something I want to do however I have been told it auto mechanics I am still keeping on mechanics in my head because I really want to learn the ins and outs but what are some of the other trades that pay well bonus points for demand in Florida well it’s been a while since I lived in Florida I can’t answer the question what trades would be good I other than electricians and plumbers always get paid well I’m not sure I’d want to do that kind of work myself home electrical work but I don’t touch the plumbing and I love where this starts and I’m going to encourage you to do me Oldsmobile 442 in his garage he was really interested in doing that so finally he dropped out of college he started working at his parents garage fixing cars he had and they lived in a nicer community so we couldn’t do it in the driveway it was difficult to do and eventually he opened up his first shot was he paid extraordinarily well maybe not but mechanics that I’ve taken my car is to make a decent amount and they have significant overhead it is guys are going hungry but this is this guy that I knew years ago he persevered he now owns three mechanic shops he’s doing quite well he has a number of kids his his wife is a stay at home mom and they live in Northern California or one of the rule areas were talking San Jose it’s not Florida but I believe they drive the same car is in Florida that they do And that is validate all of your assumptions you’re assuming that auto mechanics is the way you want to go you have interest in that great go talk to as many people as you can that do that kind of work for a living and you don’t want to look for the rule you want to look for the exception to the rule meeting any of them told you that nobody can make money in Florida doing this but there’s 20 of it as in they are actually or doing it and then what are you doing differently than the 80 that you talk to you they don’t make a note this is where networking is going to support your success you’re talking to one of those 20 and they’re giving you the advice and ask him could I come for one day and work with you to see what it’s like to work in your shop I want to not ask you for a job I’m asking you to let me come in and learn from you that is a completely different ask The likelihood that they could mentor you people like to help other people success 60 wow so much for the grammar people like helping others succeed so when you give them that opportunity to help you pick up on it or if it’s coming from your heart and you talking to people about it they’re going to get excited because you’re excited for your 18th and I would highly recommend wanna do something with him mechanics even though you’re not a mechanic so you could be a tow truck driver you could be a shot in the front and whatever it takes just get something one step closer to that great at it a second thing I would consider and this is it for everybody but I guarantee you that there is a military program that you could take a vantage of that’s going to help you get those mechanical skills and I’ll pay you to do it now that’s if you’re interested in getting into the military that I will say that’s not for everything And the second one and you are offering very large bonuses to people who actually signed up for it in a broader sense for those who are listening who are have a similar question what do I do I’m done I don’t want to go to the university I want to go to the trades I would say do it because there is a lack of people going into the trades right now so the chances of making money or much higher now than they were 5075 years ago when a lot of people were going to the traits because university was not an option for them interesting is to think that that’s happening again now where university education has become so expensive if you were in fewer people are actually choosing that if there is something that really interests as your passions do it and then I don’t know if you follow like me Open to different scholarship programs there he has a list I think of different companies that offer internships or educational program where he put you through this long program 18 to 24 months and you come out at the end I’m telling yeah if I had had that kind of talent I see the benefit if I had gone that way rather than University as it is I don’t have a good degree from a good university and actually used my degree for a number of years now I’m doing what I’m really passionate about which probably ties more to my first career of acting that it did to the degree all of this life experience has it put me in the position where I am today that I have so much more to offer because in my experience you are going to be in exactly the same situation if you’re following what truly interest you whether people say you’re going to make money or not you will find that the worst roblox that you’ll ever fix Get the advice but don’t take it personal and order it or don’t assume that it’s the truth right if the trees are that person may not be the truth for you right exactly great advice so this is the last question yes it is a question I’m 24 and was just passed up for a significant promotion I don’t feel like there’s much left for me at this company what do I do the backstory he asked it should I bring this up with the president along with all the things I’ve accomplished that I believe make me leads ahead of the other person receive the promotion I was recently passed up for mechanical engineer to Engineering manager for contacts I’m 24 and have been working in this place for 11 months the person who is did receive the promotion is your two ahead of me is been working for 6 to 8 months longer yeah I think that you were probably passed up for promotion If you feel that your work has been superior to those of your colleagues are I would find a very gentle way of presenting that because you’re going to be it’s going to be a fine line between cockiness and confidence in this case I would say first of all if you’re going to bring it up with the president you should start out by being grateful for the job that you have and that you look forward to a long career with just the opportunity to interview for this position and even being considered in the company of people that have worked great when you’re more experience in and I’m assuming hear that you’re early in your career you been in this company for a short time you maybe how to build trust with anybody yes you may have done good work yes you may be highly qualified and yes you maybe should’ve got that position but somebody else to trust and that takes time and that means getting your hands dirty building relationships with people Because that might give a different impression instead how can you collaborate with your peers so that you become a leader without the authority influence is a funny thing it can help you help other people but it can also help yourself so you don’t want to be two-faced about it you don’t want to go in with an all tear your motive I’m gonna help you and in the back your head you take me so I could look at just helped more you are helping other people succeed the better that makes you look and that does get noticed overtime don’t forget that this might be fresh for you in responding overreacting is really important to recognize them I was in that exact same situation when I came out of college I was passed over for a management role in our department after the manager left the company and I wouldn’t even consider it and I thought there must be something wrong with me or these people are out to get it just recognize that there could be other things going on.